Fredericksburg-area mothers swap photos and stories about their boys over coffee and sweets at the Spotsy Spot in Spotsylvania County. The new chapter of the 'It's Good to Be the Queen' club lets them bond with other moms of males. Photos by REBECCA SELL/THE FREE LANCE-STAR View More Images from this story Visit the Photo Place

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At "It's Good to Be the Queen" meetings, moms who have only boys get to let their girly sides shine

At "It's Good to Be the Queen" meetings, moms who have only boys get to let their girly sides shine

Date published: 9/5/2006

By KIM BAER

The women gathered.

One by one or in groups of two, they walked into the coffee shop near Spotsylvania County Courthouse.

Many ordered chocolatey iced coffees topped with whipped cream. Some chose desserts as well, dark fudgy brownies or soft, round cookies.

The rich food was fitting for this royal assembly. For on this night, these women were queens.

It's Good to Be the Queen is a club for moms who have only boys to get together to celebrate life in boy land.

Linda Marie Ford of Dallas, Texas, started the group four years ago. Since then, chapters have formed across the country.

Robin Wisner of Orange County, who has two boys, read about the national group in The Free Lance-Star and decided to start a chapter here. Members of the club met for the second time last month at the Spotsy Spot.

The women from the local chapter donned pink and silver tiaras. But there's more to this coffee klatch than girl time.

If it's true that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then moms who have only boys spend a lot of time trying to figure out the other species.

They have to, they say.

It's hard out there for a boy.

They've heard the statistics: boys mature later than girls, boys lag behind girls in reading and writing and have more dust-ups at school.

They want to make sure that their boys succeed in careers and in relationships.

That's why Phyllis Gibson of King George County teaches her two boys to be Southern gentlemen. She reminds them to say please and thank you, to refer to adults as "Mr." and "Mrs."

It's why Sarabeth Wallace has learned her two boys' "love languages."

She knows one needs cuddle time in front of the TV with Mom, the other loves board game time.

As these women shared their stories, others nodded.

They know.

Many marveled that the same boys who will set up elaborate battle scenes also play "family" with their stuffed animals.

"Little boys are so sweet," said Gina Carter.

"More than we give them credit for," added Wisner.

Want to join? The Fredericksburg- area chapter of It's Good to Be the Queen is currently planning a September meeting. For more information, contact Robin Wisner at robin@robinwisner.com. Top five signs you're a mother who has only boys (culled from a recent It's Good to Be the Queen meeting): It's snowing inside. At least it is when a 2-year-old opens the refrigerator door and tosses white rice all over the living room. Happy Mother's Day. Here's a bug key chain. First, the scrunched-up pity face. Then the words: "Oowwhh. You didn't get your girl." Legos. Legos. And more Legos. "Watering the bushes" takes on a whole new meaning.

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Date published: 9/5/2006